Unsettled Estate
A couple of weeks ago I sent my sister an email to discuss the plans for my and Erica’s roadtrip to Georgia to see her and my niece for the holidays. Wanna see her response?
What are you trying to do?? Ruin this Christmas too?? Last year was bad enough. I wanted to try and have a happy Christmas this year.
You wanna know what happened last Christmas? Our mom died. So, what my sister means is that me visiting for the holidays this year, would be as bad as watching our mother die from congestive heart failure last year.
I haven’t really written a lot about Mom’s death and the aftermath of what’s happened since, but you may remember that a few months back I reported that things were going well between me and my sister on our mission to settle the estate. Unfortunately, things changed. As is typical in dealings with money and family, previously civil conversations disintegrated into text arguments and one-word emails, eventually leading to the aforementioned un-invitation for the holidays.
Of course, this isn’t what I envisioned for this Christmas. I thought Mom’s death would somehow bring my sister and I closer together. That the tragedy that was our mother’s too-short life would be something that would inspire us to join forces, to finally become sisters in the traditional loving, supportive manner that other pairs of siblings seem to enjoy. For months, I’ve pictured the road trip down to Georgia and imagined us having our first family holiday without a mom, but with each other. Turns out, that’s not happening. I’m super sad about it, but after a couple of days of crying, I finally accepted the fact that I’ll be spending my and my sister’s first holiday without our Mom on my own.
On the bright side, Erica and I already scheduled time off for the vacation so instead of driving down to Georgia, we’re going to a spa.
December 16th, 2011 at 3:42 pm
i bloody love you and the spa sounds amazing and exactly what you need xo
December 16th, 2011 at 6:07 pm
I bloody love your ass too, AB. I’m trying to be like Erykah Badu.
“I work at pleasing me cause I can’t please you…”
December 16th, 2011 at 8:09 pm
we’re gonna make this the best christmas ever boo! ((pinky))
December 17th, 2011 at 6:41 pm
NEVER underestimate the power and success of plan “b”
xo
December 19th, 2011 at 10:21 am
B! B! B! B! B!
December 19th, 2011 at 9:39 pm
Well, you know what they say…the hottest fire makes the strongest massage stones. Or something like that…
December 21st, 2011 at 11:28 am
I’m sorry you had to spend even a moment being upset by this. But if you really wanna spend Christmas in an unpleasant environment, you’re welcome to come to MY house and I’LL go to the spa!